I. Introduction: Why Set Out—My Personal Pursuit of “Pure Love”

First, why do I want to be a “Pure Love Warrior”?

In my world, genuine and lasting connections between people are incredibly meaningful. The aspects of family and friendship are largely complete, leaving only love.

For me, being a “Pure Love Warrior” is not just a meme; it is a “life project” that I take seriously. It is a vital part of my self-actualization, one that deserves to be planned with a rigorous attitude.

Why is it so important? Because I believe “pure love” is both an “end” —the relationship itself can bring immense happiness and energy; and a “means” —it can assist us (my partner and me) in pursuing other life values, achieving a “1+1 > 2” synergy.

II. My Understanding of “Pure Love”?

First, the exclusions (what it is not):

Not for “practical” purposes: Not for money, power, status, or any “resource exchange.”
Not a relationship game: Rejecting PUA, rejecting the “whoever falls first, loses” game.
Not betrayal or retreat: Loyalty is the bottom line. Facing problems means solving them together, not running away or replacing the person.

So, what “is” it?

Independent Collaboration: This is a brilliant collaboration between two complete individuals. I refuse to be dependent, nor do I want to be depended on.
Mutual Growth: This relationship must be a catalyst, enabling us both to become better, more complete versions of ourselves.
A Community: I really like the saying that an ideal intimate relationship is “the smallest unit of communism.” Its essence is the joint pursuit and creation for “well-being” (for both of us, and for our future family).

In modern society, it is simply a high-quality, deep collaboration that satisfies our multi-layered needs—material, physiological, and psychological.

[11.03 Addendum]
I must be honest, all the “definitions” above are just my superficial understanding at this current stage.
My understanding and definition of “pure love” are not yet fixed, and there are many unclear areas. This is only an extremely rough V1.0.

For example, how to balance “independent collaboration” and “community” in reality? What is the cost of “mutual growth”?
There are many, many doubts and ambiguities. This is a project that requires continuous thought and exploration. I will keep thinking and updating.

Finally, a core re-definition: The focus is on the process, not the outcome.
“Pure love” doesn’t mean the luck of a “one-time success” (like marrying your first love). “Pure love” is an attitude, meaning “no matter how many times this is, I treat the connection between people with sincerity.”

III. Ideal Blueprint: What My “Pure Love” Looks Like

OK, my strategic choice is: A deep bond between “Pure Love” and “DINK” (Dual Income, No Kids) or “Adoption.”

Why DINK or adoption?

Advantages (Liberation!): It can completely liberate me from the “biological clock” and “social clock anxiety”! I can more purely pursue my career and the relationship itself.
Challenges (High Difficulty!): I also know the challenges are immense!
- (A) The relationship needs a higher-quality “bonding agent.” When the default life project of “having a child” is removed (or replaced with adoption), we must rely on strong spiritual resonance and mutual growth to sustain it.
- (B) This relationship needs to be maintained by “a conscious, free choice every day.”

This “high-challenge” nature is precisely in line with my rigorous spirit of “project exploration.”

So, what does the partner profile for this “map” look like?

(All requirements below are mutual! I must meet them myself first!)

1. Foundational Traits (Must-haves!)

Values: Kind, empathetic, open-minded, with altruistic tendencies. I place great importance on him rejecting a “superiority” value system (the “man-over-man” mindset).
Sense of Responsibility: Takes responsibility for his own life; is serious, cautious, and loyal in relationships, and is willing to treat it as a “project” to work on.

2. Shared Traits (To work on together!)

Life Pursuits: Appreciates a life model of “exploration” and “creation” (e.g., in research/technology/art).
Lifestyle: Pursues health and self-discipline (e.g., loves exercise, maintains a regular schedule). This is not just a health issue, but a positive attitude towards life.

3. Openness on Major Issues

The DINK/Adoption Issue: He can be unfamiliar with or have never considered it before, but he must be “willing to learn and discuss” it, and not have a strong obsession with “must have biological offspring.”
Past Experiences: Personally, while I hope he has no prior relationship experience, this is not a strict requirement. I care more about his “current” mature view on relationships and his serious attitude.

4. Consensus on Long-Term Planning (Future items!)

Can accept a
possible “long-term, long-distance/international relationship” in the future.
Can be mentally prepared to face the challenge of “convincing family to accept DINK/adoption“ with me.

IV. Conclusion

Having written this far, the framework for my “pure love” ideal blueprint (What & Why) is basically established.

In the next entry, I want to explore a more difficult question: How?

For example, for someone with no relationship experience, what are the risks and opportunities of pursuing this “peculiar” kind of “pure love”?